Do you ever feel like a victim, like everyone dumps on you or treats you badly? Do you always seem to get the short end of the stick? Sometimes those things are the result of bad luck or surrounding yourself with the wrong people, but sometimes, we do it to ourselves……
Here’s a phrase that I try to live by that sounds harsh but may change your life: What you permit, you PROMOTE!
When you think about this, it makes sense. If you let someone yell at you, abuse you, take advantage of you, it’s hard to stop them from doing it in the future. If you ask your children to clean their rooms but do it for them when they don’t get on it, you have taught them to wait it out, and let YOU do it. See what I mean?
Now think of the relationships in your life that create stress or suffering because they affect your self esteem, confidence or quality of life. What have you promoted simply because you allowed it? It might be time to change the dynamic in those relationships or find new ones. All the stress that results from this is dangerous and can lead to illnesses like:
- Anxiety disorders
- Heart Disease
- Substance abuse
- Eating disorders
If you want your life to change, YOU have to change your life. Learn to say “NO” or “please don’t speak to me that way”. Love yourself enough to permit what you WANT to promote!